My 6 Year Old Son (JUMMA) --3

   

       How do I explain about friday Jummah to my 6 year old Son 

    Mum!!!!! Do I have to go  masjid for jummah prayer??    My little son questioned for the third time with a confused expression...

  ( Their I go again to the explanation mode,lol.)

I said : yes dear.. you need to go  but I am not forcing you. 
But friday is a special day for us as Muslims.
 It's like an Eid day for us. 

All around the world Muslims gathered to Masjids on this day pray to Allah, On a certain time of the day.

We are like brothers and sisters . 
We believe in Allah and we follow our prophet muhammed (Saw).
We follow the same religion .
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    Hope he understood what I taught him..

 With a bright smile he went to the masjid without any complains Alhamdulillah .


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 I know still he is a small kid . Yet , the teachings what we give in their young age stays longer in their little minds . So we need to nourish them with good thoughts ,practises, reciting the quran , memorising the quran etc...
 We need to bring Islam in their day to day life to make them better Musli    

My 6 Year Old Son - 2

                  MY 6 YEAR OLD SON

MOM!!!  How is your life???
My little son asked today out of blue while he was riding his bicycle...

 ( For the first time I realised that my son is growing he isn't a small boy who hide himself behind mama or papa when he see a stranger )

I was like have to shout out its a roller coster but kept quiet
Why did you ask dear ?????
     I just want  to know  How did you born??where did you born??
  where everyone took you from the hospital ??
and lots and lots of question he asked.

 THE FACT I LEARNED FROM HIM IS THAT
A SIX YEAR OLD MEANS IS NOT A SMALL TODDLER ...

 TO HIDE THE THINGS BEHIND THE BUSH
WE NEED TO TALK TO THEM
 THE REALITY OF LIFE
THE SITUATIONS WHAT THEY WILL  FACE WHEN THEY GROW UP AND AROUND THEIR SURROUNDINGS
THEY HAVE STRATED TO EXPOLE
THEY HAVE BEGAN TO FIND REASONS FOR EVERYTHING
SO THEY HAVE ALWAYS A QUESTION TO ASK..

SO AS PARENTS WE SHOULD BE AWARE ABOUT THEIR THINKINGS
HOW THEY EXPRESS THEIR IDEAS AND VIEWS      WE SHOULDN'T IGNORE WHEN THEY COMES TO YOU WITH A QUESTION
IF WE ARE NOT PREPARED TO FACE THEM
IF WE ARE NOT WILLING TO RESPOND TO THEIR QUESTIONS....
SOME ONE WILL
THE SOCIETY WILL DO THE JOB
 THE PEOPLE IN THE SOCIETY WILL TAKE IT TO  THEIR HANDS
SOMETIMES IT MIGHT BE GOOD BUT MOST OF THE TIME IT TURNED TO BE WITH BAD INFLUENCE


IF OUR CHILDREN STUCK WITH THE WRONG PERSON
IF HE COMES TO SLOVE THE CHILDS PUZZLE
THINK WHAT WILL BE THE CIRCUMSTANCES
WILL THAT BE A  good beginning for a innocent child

Physcholgist say that A CHILD'S MIND IS LIKE A WHITE PAPER WITHOUT ANY MARKS
WE SHOULD (PARENTS) FILL UP THE PAPER BEFORE THE SOCIETY DOES THAT JOB TO YOUR CHILDS MIND

I THINK ITS THE MAJOR MILESTONE IN THEIR GROWTH
WE HAVE TO GROW  WITH THEM
WE SHOULD EDUCATE OUR SELVES
TO GUIDE OUR CHILDREN
TO SHOW THE RIGHTIOUS PATH
TO TEACH THEM TO BE IN THEIR OWN
NOT TO BE DEPEND IN ANOTHER PERSON
TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS
TO BE INDEPENDENT
TO  BE STRONG WHEN THE TIDES OF LIFE BECOMES HARD TO FACE.....

DAWN

                     Dawn  

The calmness of the dawn makes me to relax
The prayer I make in the fajr gives me peace ...
After the deep slumber
waking up early before even the sun rise
simply to submit  ourselves in front of our God ..
what a wonderful way to start a day.

Believing in Allah makes our souls being the most satisfied human being among the people...
The greatest  gift Allah has given ,,
The Righteous path he has chosen for us
How grateful we have to be towards our creator..

How many  people in this world has chosen the wrong path
How many people have gone astray by worshipping idols
How many of them changed them selves to become Atheist
how many people striving hard in seeking the truth

WE HAVE TO BE THE MOST GRATEFUL PEOPLE
FOR WHAT WE HAVE GIVEN
BECAUSE OUR CHOICE HAS BEEN DECIDED BY ALLAH
TO BE BORN AS A MUSLIM IS A GIFT FROM ALLAH
LET NOT OUR MINDS  AND HEARTS GO ASTRAY
NEGLIGENT IN OUR PRAYER
IS THE DOWN FALL OF OUR LIFE......

MAY ALLAH MAKES US AMONG THE PIOUS PEOPLE
WHO PLEAD FOR HIS MERCY WHILE THE WORLD IS COVERED IN DARKNESS
WHO RAISE THEIR HANDS IN SUPPLICATION, WHILE THEIR EYES SHED TEARS
MAKE US AMONG THE PEOPLE ,,WHO STAND UP FOR PRAYER (SALAH) EVERY ,TIME WHEN THEY HEAR THE CALL FOR PRAYER (AZAAN)

LET OUR DEEDS
LET OUR ACTIONS PLEASE ALLAH.

My 6 year old son --1

      The other day my 6 year old son came to me with a sad face , I saw something bothered him a lot . Yet I didn't jump up to a conclusion ,I just want to spill what he felt.

     He started sobbing and weeping ,,tears started flowing  . Ran to me and hugged me tightly .
Then I asked what happened ? He was stared at me for sometimes , may be analyzing what my reaction will be ,,but mum is always mum😁 I kept a neutral face ... I cannot show my emotions though I desperately want to know what's bothering him.
 He said ""I don't want to go to Quran madrasa(  a place to learn quran ) . I was bit shocked coz that was his favourite place but all of a sudden why this hatred . Soo I said okay you can stay today but promise me you will continue on monday insha allah .

   I just left him to be carefree the whole day when the bed time arrived I started a conversation with him . From A ) Any problem with the vehicle what you travel , is uncle kind towards you (driver), what about the children who goes with you did they trouble you . His response is no . Soo slowly I started what happened in the school so question B)How s your teacher ?? Did she shout at you ? Did she gave any punishment?? But he said no she is very goood . Then comes the friends in the class when put the question C) did your friends hurt you he started crying again so I got the point . I have to handle it carefully as he was bullied in his classroom . An issue which should be concerned as it's regarding my son's self confidence. I have to bring him out of dark hole.. A wound which shouldn't be kept unattended.
      Little by little I  explained in his own tone that theirs nothing to be scared of other children They are your age ..when you become big you will have to face a lot of people so be strong . If someone tries to hurt you simply avoid them, if they keep on troubling just complain to your teacher . Simply just because of a small fight why you want to give up your learning . Just concentrate in your studies that will make you shine among your friends . Be strong and I recalled old stories of my past .. he enjoyed listening to everything as he is a good listener and he slowly drift to a deep sleep.
 And Alhamdulilllah  the words I spoke made the magic in him . From that day on wards he never complain and he started enjoying the days learning the quran Alhamdulillah .

 THE IMPORTANT FACT IS WHEN YOU HANDLE A CHILD YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT THEY ARE NOT GROWN UPS ,, STILL THEY ARE VULNERABLE ..STILL THEY ARE NEW TO THEIR SURROUNDINGS.

SO WE NEED PATIENTS TO TACKLE AND APPROACH THEM IN A GENTLE MANNER TO SOLVE THEIR PROBLEMS. IN OUR VIEW IT'S JUST A SIMPLE  MATTER,THAT CAN BE HANDLED BUT FOR THEM THEY FEEL THEIR LIFE REVOLVING AROUND THEIR PROBLEMS.

    1 ST BE A GOOD LISTENER  FOR YOUR CHILD
TAKE THEIR MATTERS BIT SERIOUSLY ...
YOU WILL FIND YOUR CHILD WILL GROWN UP TO FINE PERSON WITH BEST PERSONALITIES INSHA ALLAH.

Marriage is beautiful....

            MARRIAGE IS BEAUTIFUL

      Marriage is beautiful......
      Make it successful........

•      In marriage ,the couples should have a strong communication . It is the roots of a long lasting marriage.   

           #  It should be built up in mutual            understanding 
#forgive the mistakes & forget ...

• The husbands, who considered them as high """I  appreciate their eagerness to become the leader of the family, yet make sure not to break your dear wife's heart in this process"""".         

    Once you raise your hand & your voice her life comes to a hold. Remember not all the women are made out of steal to fight back for her rights. They are vulnerable ..

## Be with them 

##be a part of them.

## Every creation of God is unique . Learn to read their minds. 

##See what their likes and dislikes.

## Look out for what their talent is, encourage them.

• Learn the art of listening . Listen to their ideas ,views ,opinions , Appreciate them. Do not suppress their attitudes simply because you do not like it.                                                                                                                                                        !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can't try to change another persons life to satisfy your life.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

• Remember each of you have come from different background in the society,with a different family structure and customs. So you can't come to decision in a single action of your spouse.                                                                         .!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!You need time to workout in marriage.     !!!!!!!!!!!!!!                                                                                                                           
• Always seek refuge in Allah ,when ever shaitan course problems around the corner between the spouses.                                                                                                                                                                
• If you are in a desperate situation in your marriage life.. remember this too will pass away.Never give up your hopes easily,let the struggles make you strong.                                                                                                                                
• This advice is for the dear wife's who most willing to spend their husbands money,think twice ... Do not be a burden for your husbands .  Spending their money unnecessarily                                                   """"we know that it's your husbands responsibility to spend over you but never ever compare him to your Dad or siblings.-  """""""""""                                                                                                                                      ------your man some times has his own responsibilities towards his parents and towards his siblings.   He has some commitments too.Do not stress them in these matter.--------------                                                                           

'''''''''IT IS A MAJOR PROBLEM WHICH LEADS TO BROKEN MARRIAGES'''''''''''''''

     #######DEAR SISTER AND BROTHER IN ISLAM , REMEMBER LIFE IS FULL OF TESTS ,,EACH INDIVIDUAL HAVE THEIR OWN WORRIES.......UNFULFILLED DREAMS. IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT THE PROBLEM IS 

    .---ALWAYS PUT YOUR TRUST IN ALLAH 

------He will never let you down----------

           

Hope for life

    When the tides of waves (problems in life)
reached my footsteps 
       I gasped for air..
My breathe got stuck in my lungs
     I forgot to breathe
as I forgot how to swim through life..

Time and patients are the best teachers  
   I ever approached for
they taught me 
    What my battle is for..
The survival to live is the hardest battle my life taught me ..

I am not a warrior in the field of life and hardship..
but,,,,the Fate turned me to a hard rock...
No more you wouldn't  be able to see the innocent women 
with in me ..
It was buried deep down in my heart
never to appear in surface..

my life taught me, mould me , carved me to be the person you see
     TO BEAR THE LONELINESS 
EVERY TIME MY LOVED ONCE LEAVE ME..
   TO BEAR THE PAIN WHEN I AM NOT THE CHOSEN ONE TO BE MARRIED..
 WHEN EVERY SINGLE MARRIAGE PROPOSAL GET REJECTED 
 BECAUSE SIMPLY I AM NOT THE MODERN GIRL WHAT THEY LOOK FOR...

TO BEAR THE HARSH WORDS OF THE SOCIETY 
   WHEN I AM UNABLE TO PRODUCE A CHILD FOR THEM
 OR 
I AM NOT CAPABLE ENOUGH TO GIVE BIRTH TO A BABY BOY..

   I learned the lesson to survive in the society
        As a girl
               As a WIFE
                      As a MUM 
    The battle may intense
yet I never put my armour down 
    Its the struggle for my survival
             THE SURVIVAL TO LEAD A GOOD LIFE 

         

MY DEAR CHILD.......

                My Dear Child........
                        
                             You gave me pride when I carried you in my womb. 
           My dreams for you were beyond boundaries....
The expectations I draw for you in my heart 
wordless to express. You came to this world by giving me another name " MUM".
          I never felt the bond between a child and it's MUM before you were given to my hand.
     I cuddled you ... I enjoyed all the little things you did .....
 I want to protect you 
 I  want leave some lines for you to follow 

     """"I want you to spend time with your parents and specially with your grand parents,Cos what they speak to you is their life lesson.. please do not ignore them.."""
     .""'I want you to be a nature loving kid...
So you will find the beauty in each and every creation of God...
    """Spend time with your Family
        Make your siblings your best friends,
  Time will teach you how hard you try to hold them .... but they will be faraway from you,,Only the pictures will remain with you to recall the sweet memories....
   """Always believe in your self 
      It's the door step for your success..

      """"IN THE ROAD OF YOUR LIFE 
STOP YOURSELF 
LOOK BACK HOW FAR YOU HAVE COME...
HOW FAR YOU HAVE REACHED FOR YOUR GOAL...
 LET THE FOOT PRINTS STAY BIT LONGER
    SO OTHERS CAN FOLLOW YOUR FOOTSTEPS....

...................ALWAYS SPEAK TO ALLAH ...
LOOK TOWARDS THE SKY....RAISE YOUR HANDS HIGH
HE IS THEIR LOOKING AT YOU 
THE CREATOR
THE MASTER OF THIS UNIVERSE 
------HE WILL NEVER LET YOU DOWN-------
    
        

THE LAND I FALL IN LOVE -- MADINA

  THE LAND I FALL IN LOVE -- MADINA


              

                      Once in my life I was gifted and blessed to live in a land where the beauty was hidden under the scorching sun .
  In the middle of the brown sand only you will be welcomed by the thin thorny cactuses and tall date trees.
 Time to time you will see white sheets of moving creatures when you look closer its amazing to see the sheeps were grazing in the barren land . Its a wonder to see the animals survive in those dark brown heated sand.
      I saw the beauty in mesmerizing tall mountains . My heart skips a beat when I saw the mountains covered with different shades,in different layers of smooth sand..

             I feel like run towards it.. to feel the beauty to the core of my thirsty heart .
 I want to get lost in those sandy mountains..
To refresh my soul......

                                 My legs never comes to a halt, never I get tired when I roam through the streets of my beloved prophet. I feel zenith when I thought that once rasoolullah and his dear companions footsteps touch the soil which I witness through my own eyes.

       The beauty ,the tranquility I felt in my mind is a pure bliss. My soul becomes ease with the peaceful serenity which I knew I never get it in this whole wide world.

    You may dive into the sea,you may climb up the cliff of a tall mountain ... you may witness the beauty of the sunset when it hide its rays far away behind the mountain ranges ... you may see the gushing pure white milky waterfalls falling with their charming rhythm... all these moments are breathe taking ,a pleasant memory for a certain period time , but when you stepped into the city of madi7na you will feel unknown emotions  ...... 

you will feel the pleasure of a long lost child running towards his mother.......

A missing piece of puzzle of your life......

 

The wonderful days I spend in Masjid al Haram was mesmerizing.  Far away from a distance you will see the view of jennathul bakki where the prophets beloved companions and the people who created the best nation were buried.. you will see the green dome where my beloved prophet Muhamed (Saw) and his companions next to each other were buried. Then the tall countless gates welcome you to the prophets masjid .

   
     
When the sun was rising I witness the beauty while sitting in the floors of haram. I used to ponder the words of Allah (Quran) while tears in my eyes.....
Ya Allah how many times do I have to thank you to give this great opportunity ... where thousands of people longing to come to this place through out their entire life.
    In the morning hours its splendid to be inside the masjid. The sun rays beams down through the window shades of the masjid. 
    Their were Quran circles around every corner. They might be different in colour ..
their language Might differ from each other yet they have sat in one pious mission...
The wisdom of learning the language of prophet.... to give a voice to the mesmerizing Quran... to carry Allah 's words in their hearts .. and ready to carry it to the next generation.
  How inspirational ,,,how wonderful their attitudes were.........

   The people who visit that place have different dress codes not like the way  we see in Makka during tawaf.
Every time this issue kept me haunting and took sometime till the reality dawn to me...
      I forgot to realize that their are people among us who take little steps towards the righteous path. No one is perfect in practising the religion , everyone strive struggle hard to get succeed in their own pace.
we are not in the religion which can be forced at others .It takes time to carve the extract to embrace fully with the pure intention towards islam. 
As they say we cannot judge a book by its cover similarly we cannot come to a conclusion by the peoples attire or by their acts of behaviour .
These are the simple but amazing lesson I learned the days in haram taught me .

  The beauty that our beloved rasoolullah taught our nation which made us a unique community. He took the mission of building up individual people.....
      Quran has the guidance and the life of prophet muhamed (saw) being the living example made madina to become the most successful community.The best nation ever lived  where their glory echoed far east and the west .


     THE LAND OF SUCCESS
     THE LAND OF OUR BELOVED PROPHET 
HOW DO I REFRAIN FROM FALLING IN LOVE ..............................
 MADINA MY BELOVED CITY OF MY HEART

She

               
               SHE......
Every time I think about life
       ready to write down my thoughts I end up with melancholy..
Why can't I ever start to write with a happy life
             a happy ending
A happy loving story of a wonderful newly married couple..
""Happily lived ever after""

It's a blindness
It's dumb
If I use those words to express a successful story..

When I turn around
the world has changed a lot
Yet ,
when I see a girl around me her life never change a single bit
Why she is the one who has to suffer..
why she is the one who has to give up her thoughts..
why she is the one who has to suppress her own feelings...
Why she is the one who has to be patient ,keep her mouth shut...

How can she survive
How many days she has to stuck inside the four walls weeping for her life...
Doesn't she deserve a life in her own accord..
Doesn't she has the freedom to stand up in her own feet....
Doesn't she is the one who has to face all the hardship..

What's the fault she has done to her in laws
Why She She She ............

Remember she has a soul
Yet it's dead long time back..

Once she had some thoughts imaginations about her life ..
A wonderful future 
A new Chapter about her life
She dreamed to be loved 
A caring shoulder
Some cheerful words..

Is it too much for a girl to ask
isn't she should be respected

please don't try to break her wings before even it started to  grow fully..

She doesn't want to be the eagle to rule the sky
she just want to be the sparrow .......
to fly around the garden 
the garden of your life

Fate

          FATE

  I cried on that day.. to escape from the bitter reality.
  My sobs never ending as it was a pouring rain drops ..
 My tears my cries became louder till I heard  someone whispered behind me
 """You are not suppose to cry in front of your "MUM"
It stuck me hard  to the core of my heart 
Now the only soul left for me is my MUM
  The Dad I was blessed to have no more with me 
The pain is so hard 
A lifeless body wrapped in a white shroud being kept in front of me 
My mind weeps to give my Dad my last hug 
My heart bleeds to hear his kind words 
My Mum lost her dear companion 

 I wiped my tears , I have to bear it 
 I have to hide my sorrows ,pains deep down in my heart...
Let my Mum know I am the strongest girl whom she can rely on....
yet deep down I am dying of the emptiness 
The deep scar 
The hole which cannot be covered in days....
I am falling day by day yet I learn to stand up every time I fall to fight with my awaiting destiny................